The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
"My friend, love is a verb. Love, the feeling, is a fruit of love, the verb. You say you don’t love her and the feeling isn’t there anymore. So I say, love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"
"In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They are driven by feelings. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so."
"Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do, the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a new born into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend you or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for your children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.”